The invisible masculine.
So I read a lot of articles with guys trying to articulate on what masculinity is in modern day society, and how a man should use that masculinity and in what way.
I like a lot of viewpoints which I have read, mainly thanks to “the good men project”. A very enjoyable site full of people with very good opinions on most things.
As much as I enjoy a lot of these viewpoints they always leave me slightly empty as in conclusions and short of a theory that would finally put words to what many of us feel. But.. No such joy, just more guys trying to work it out also.
You see, as a barber I have infinite contact with men from all cultures and most class structures. I have so much information and the ability to understand it. I have just found it hard putting it into words…. Until now, I am ready to try.
I will apologise to all you guys that do not connect with what I say, and for those that do, your welcome.
When I think of men in modern society I think of 500 guys gathered and bunched like a herd in a circle.
There is a fence around them, we could call the fence “helping you be who we think your supposed to be”, it’s a long name but I am half Greek and used to long names.
In my image when the fence is taken away the men move in different directions, some quicker than others, some are looking for guidance and continue round in a circle not sure of them selves or what they are looking for, some run so fast that they trip and fall only to run back again, back and forth falling and rising, some guys attach to each other and form a new circle with an invisible fence, others stand frozen and others lie down, maybe even sucking their thumb.
It all looks like one hell of a mess.
But then…. There is always the guy who when the fence is removed, turns and looks out into the distance. He steadily starts walking just looking straight ahead. His walk is calm and one paced, he is assured and seems to know what the rest don’t. As I watch the abstract picture of men walking round in circles, falling over and lying down, I also see this one man walking off into the distance.
So I ask…. Who is the real man in this group??
My answer will always be the same.
ALL OF THEM!!!
As men & women in society we should all aspire to be what nature intended for us, following our instincts and trusting this amazing body and mind we have been given. For some that has been more difficult than others. Our experiences in our own societies and families have been unique to us and we do the best we can with what we have been left with. But… Don’t ever forget guys. Masculinity for me, is trying to be as close to your true self as possible, whatever self that is.
So let’s not label masculinity, we are not all meant to be heroes or soldiers , world leaders or farmers.
For most of us it’s just hard enough being ourselves.
As for the guy who walked off in a straight line…. Came to a cliff, had to stop, still standing there I think!!!
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